I Love You; You’re Free to Leave
Loving someone includes respect; respect of their space, privacy, and freedom. This includes freedom to…
Attachment Theory
John Bowlby’s theory of attachment and its impact on psychological theory.
Polyvictimization
Polyvictimization refers to people experience multiple types of victimization – such as sexual abuse, physical…
Human Connection
We need human connections to survive the coming wave of separation created by the innovations…
Relationship Drama
Charged with thunderous energy, some relationships bounce between euphoric highs and “call-the-cops” lows.
Love is a Verb
Love is a verb, expressed by how we treat those that we love. Love is…
Painfully Close a Door
We work ourselves through some problems. Other times, we can’t fix the issue and must…
Judgement and Discernment
Judging is necessary. Good Judgement leads to flourishing. Poor judgment is costly. Labeling some forms…
Broken Promises
Our response to broken promises becomes our legacy. We build character or wallow in toxic…
Theory of Mind
Theory of mind refers to our ability to consider underlying mental states in others and…
Emotional Boxing Match
A powerful punch may win the argument but damages the relationship. Communication struggles in high…
Compassionate Holding of Our Past
Kindly embracing and compassionate holding of our past invites healing, and begins a healthy new…
Empathy In Relationships
Our response to a partner’s upsets builds or destroys closeness. Expressing empathy in relationships builds…
Fault Finding
It’s not my fault; the ego swoops in and protects. The blame game of finding…
Wounds That Refuse to Heal
Emotional wounds that refuse to heal scar our existence. They hurt but we can learn…
Moving On After Love Is Gone
Moving on after a divorce and ending of significant relationships can be painful, but life…
Securely Attached
Securely attached is a concept arising from attachment theory. Securely attached is associated with confidence…
Emotional Attunement
A child adapts to living, with the constant flow of love, wonder, and struggle. They…
Leaving a Legacy of Love
We create a legacy of love through continual small acts of compassion and kindness. Our…
Gestalt Prayer
The Gestalt Prayer was written by Fritz Perls, founder of Gestalt Therapy, in the late…
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse, like physical abuse, destroys key components of wellness. We can escape the psychological…
Dark Triad Personalities
The dark triad of socially adverse personalities. Perhaps, the psychological triangle of evil. Yet, we…
Blaming: Escaping Responsibility
We soothe guilt by blaming others, providing immediate relief from the pressures of personal responsibility…
Interpersonal Style
Interpersonal style refers to the way individuals interact and communicate with others, including voice, words,…
How to Improve Your Relationship
Relationships get stuck in harmful cycles, repeating hurtful behaviors. You can change. You can improve…
Healing Compassion
We treat trauma with healing compassion. Harshness furthers the injury, preventing recovery, and deepening the…
Leaving A Narcissist
The characteristics common to narcissism typically are disastrous for relationships. Often leaving a narcissist is…
My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy
Imperfections, we all have them; but living with our imperfect wife (or husband) can drive…
Emotional Safety
We explore and grow when we are not emotionally threatened. Safety and security are necessary…
Building Better Connections
We need a healthy web of connections. We build better connections by developing a range…