“Things are getting better,” we tell ourselves, stringing a few good days together. Occasionally agitations settle—at least temporarily, and we feel peace. But does this peace represent long-term change? Change often occurs by imperceptible improvements, a few happy moments may be the dawn of a new day—or just a few isolated happy moments. We over analyze the normal ebb and flows of feelings. Perhaps, we should just enjoy the good days without agonizing over the deeper meaning or fearing whether or not they will stay or leave.
We analyze the meaning of everything. Its part of our human inheritance. However, over analyzing takes it to a point that it grinds on our wellness. Samantha Lefave puts it this way, “…regularly blowing things out of proportion—so much so that it becomes a constant drain on your mental energy—can be detrimental in major ways” (2019). We should analyze but only to a point.
Key Definition
Over analyzing in psychology refers to the cognitive practice of ruminating over events, assigning deeper meaning, than we could possible know from our limited data set.
Unrealistic Expectations
When we expect each pleasant experience to inaugurate the arrival of problem free futures or evaluate each setback as impending disaster, we are over analyzing normal ups and downs, giving each experience more importance than it deserves. By dumping too much expectation on an experience, even enjoyments disappoint. Over analyzing setbacks burdens with undue stress. Our over analyzing of single events dampens the liveliness of experience.
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“Once you concoct too many hypothetical situations in our mind, over a period we start believing these falsehoods to be a reality. We cannot distinguish between illusion and reality.”
Chitra Reddy | wisestep
Assigning Universal Meaning to Single Events
Our side commentary, judging a break in the storm as permanent, squashes the joy, and quickly is followed by disappointment when the rains begin to fall again. The momentary respite quickly dissolves and the normal humdrum resumes, reminding that things aren’t improving, or not improving fast enough. Like the stock market, a few losses don’t indicate a long-term direction. This magnificent life is complex full of good and bad days. We must broaden our view, accepting the momentary frustrations, and enjoy the passing pleasures.
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By panicking over disappointments, sadness, or frustrations, we disconnect from the moment, swallowed up in thoughts and agonizing over routine setbacks.
Growth Occurs in Small Incremental Steps
Measuring progress is difficult. Growth occurs over months, years and decades—not moments. The minute changes that subtly transform our lives are not observable from the close inspection at a single point in time. The changes are obscured by the smallness, and ordinary setbacks. Over analyzing the moment misses the grandness of change.
Consistent small movements in the right direction, while not magically transforming, play out over time. We move forward, slowly adapting to the new circumstances. We can’t see improvement until we step back and view our lives against the backdrop of years and decades, only then seeing great progress. When watching a flower bloom without the aid of time lapsed photography we never see movement—but movement is occurring. If we return in a few days, we see a beautiful flower where a closed bud only existed.
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“Consistent small movements in the right direction, while not magically transforming, play out over time.”
~T. Franklin Murphy
Constant evaluation of insufficiently small pools of data (a single days success or failure) discourages efforts, we fail to recognize sustained growth or decay from these moment to moments snapshots.
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Positive Action Instead of Over analyzing
We must focus attention on positive action instead of over analyzing immediate consequences. We continually must work to do the things we know are right. Constructive behaviors create change; but only over time. Things improve in their own time and in their own way.
While momentary setbacks disrupt and hurt, they don’t necessarily destroy progress. A few happy days don’t signal success or failure. We just keep doing the right things, taking the good day and bad days as they come, enjoying pleasures and working through the sorrows. When positive behaviors accumulate, they eventually reach a tipping point where life begins to dramatically change.
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Maintain faith in proven methods through the momentary gains and losses. Keep going. Keep gathering wisdom from reputable sources. Surround yourselves with helpful others. And in your later years, as your hair begins to grey, you can look back over the contents of your life, and see the beauty of a life well lived. You then know that the adventures of joy and sorrow, both the mountains and the valleys, were steps of growth, an example for your heritage, and a standard for all.
References:
Lefave, Samantha (2019). How to Stop Overanalyzing Everything. Oprah Daily. Published 5-2-2019. Accessed 3-19-2023.
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