Magnificent Life: Embracing the Present Moment

Found inside our thick protective skulls is a powerful machine. Our thinking brains—the mind—analyzes circumstances, draws upon the past and directs life through a series of unconscious predictions. We like to take credit for extraordinary intelligence from the logic of our thoughts but living and action is largely achieved from the intoxication of feeling. We are an intricate part of this magnificent life. Open your minds, soak in the beauty, and bask in the awe.

​Our thinking machine has purpose, making sense of data, organizing and then filing conclusions that influence future feelings. Our thinking, as wonderful as a gift is it is, also creates unneeded and unwelcomed pain. With the slightest inconvenience or unexpected encounter, we cascade into misery, dreading possible failures and constructing conspiracies of drama and ache. We worry, shrink and shame and hide with guilt. Sparked by an ordinary occurrence, unhinged thoughts expand, predict and create menacing meanings—often with unsubstantiated facts.

Key Definition:

Magnificent Life refers to the beautiful complexities and unknowns of existence. They create a wondrous state of awe by challenging our understanding and perceptions. The intricate web of connections between living beings, the mysteries of consciousness, and the enigmatic processes of evolution all contribute to the sense of wonder and amazement.

Introduction: The Beautiful Complexity of Life

Our curiosity, pushes the mind to create answers where no answers are available, trying to discover meaning where meaning is impossibly intertwined with complexity.  A simple inquiry—why am I feeling blue—may unearth diverse causes, exposing many unfavorable happenings; circumstances we believe should be better.

​Some mindful exploration provides effective avenues for action; but too much rumination hinders, dragging the soul into careless ponderings, depressing action, and burdening the soul (Murphy, 2022). We busy ourselves fretting over problems that don’t impact happiness. Working for change through faulty conclusions doesn’t produce grand results; and the failing then discourages continued motivation. We feel helpless, overwhelmed by floods of sadness, further depressing our system.

Cycles of Magnificent Emotions

The cycle of sadness (emotions—faulty meanings—and ineffective action) channels cheerless energy into hopelessness; strengthening the weighty winds of sadness into a full-blown storm of depression. Our emotions cycle between joyous and sadness, peace and disruption in magnificent patterns.

Depression is a disease with physical components often requiring medication for relief. But the allusive mind is not separate from the equation. Although science struggles to find the emergence of consciousness within the connections and activity of the brain, they do know there is a connection. Thoughts stimulate brain action and brain action stimulates thought. Thoughts are more than ghosts haunting feeling; they exist and translate into physical changes in the brain (Murphy, 2018). As we dig into science, we can illuminate a few misguided beliefs, leading to unwelcomed sadness, adding to our biological sensitivities.

We can’t escape negative feelings; they have a purpose: a biological warning system to avoid painful and dangerous engagements. Emotions imprint experience for recall, giving priority to the more stunning events. Losses imprinted with sadness, encourage future action to hold on to people and conditions that are important to us.

​A divorce is painful. The pain of a divorce, when properly directed, leads to actions that can prevent a second divorce. Wisdom encourages nurturing important relationships, maintaining healthier lifestyles, and staying relevant in the job market. When no emotional marker accompanies an experience, we forget—we’re not motivated to change. Seeking a life of non-stop pleasure, ignoring discomforting consequences, undermines this biological guidance system.

Joy in This Magnificent Life

Joy is also important. Life derives meaning from pleasurable experience. Somewhere intertwined in this magnificent life we are driven to acts that create bliss. But joy has a natural ebb and flow, dynamically changing, alerting our system to change, and recording connections between behaviors and feelings. Emotion suggests movement—change. Joy fades, sadness arrives. The changes demand attention. Emotions disrupt the biological balance—homeostasis—signaling change and motivating choice, whether we should fearfully pull-back or hopefully approach. Constant joy would stupefy this life saving guidance.

Biological and experiential programming directs attention to behaviors and circumstances, identifying wrongs needing correction, dangers to be avoided and opportunities to be pursued. The complex web of possible associations complicates the system. Most choices are not simply right or wrong; but a mixture of benefits and drawbacks. Some pleasures sacrifice tomorrow on the altar of today—which may be perfectly appropriate (or very costly). Sacrifices and gains must be carefully weighed.

The complexity of choice is most salient in human relationships. Relationships require constant balancing of give and take, assertive action to protect the self and compassionate action of sacrificing the self. Because of the importance of relationships to our well-being (and survival), they magnify emotions—joy and sorrow, peace and anxiety. Normal people become lunatics once engaged in the drama of love, bouncing between love and hate.

We constantly face contradictions, complexities, and experiences full of nonsensical information. Ain’t this magnificent life grand?

We Love to Solve Problems

Our brains solve problems; we anticipate, avoid and plan based on predictions of the future.

In relationships, especially in intimacy, we are vulnerable to the other person. We can’t perfectly predict. We can structure our own life to limit surprises but when others enter our circle, those predictions become imprecise, subject to other’s actions with competing and sometimes conflicting goals.

When confronted with fear of rejection—the loss of security—the bells and whistles of discomfort sound, “something is wrong, pay attention!” The discomfort generally draws attention to our partner’s action that seemingly triggered the feeling. We blame them for the discomfort, and demand they change. These moments of alarm are where subtle manipulations invade interactions. We cheat reality, hoping to solve relationship anxieties; but forced reshaping of others rarely succeeds.

The partner’s failure to change sets in motion a chain of reactions—anger, frustration, sadness, and resentment. We frantically go into cognitive overdrive trying to solve the unsolvable. Vulnerability of a relationship, where we lose a portion of control, is uncomfortable. Some choose to destroy the vulnerability, building walls around their heart, and failing to love. But this method keeps intimacy beyond our reach.

​Closeness and connection demands vulnerability. Overtime, in healthy relationships, trust in self, and trust in a partner mitigates the fear; but complexity remains.

See Emotional Vulnerability for more on this concept

Rejecting Discomforting Emotions

The rejection of negative emotion, popular in pop-psychology, is a disservice. Condemning a person suffering from dysthymia for choosing sadness is ethically wrong.  The sufferer must contend, in addition to the inner-turmoil, guilt for suffering. The guilt is also condemned as a choice, “Don’t feel guilty. Guilt isn’t good.” I’m baffled. In an era where we recoil at demanding responsibility for horrendous crimes—the Twinkie defense, affluenza, or childhood neglect made me do it—we do, however, demand responsibility for feelings.

The Laws of Complexity and Self-Improvement

We are not powerless. Emotions slowly conform to healthy thought. We invite healing to soothe past hurts through mindful practices. Healing is complex. Hurts are entangled in memories. We can’t wash away the deep wounds impacting emotions with magical thinking. Negativity isn’t the cause of pain, past-experience is. Positive thinking isn’t, however, bunk. It plays a significant role in growth; but we must realize that thinking alone isn’t the complete answer. Expressing gratitude, acknowledging unnecessary negative thoughts, and focusing on joys are tools worthy of developing.

We should constructively work to address and soothe pains without denying them necessary space in our lives. Some hurts quickly heal while remaining a significant part of our past—adding to our wisdom and compassion. Other wounds—especially childhood hurts—aren’t so easily cured. Constantly resurfacing throughout our lives. We may never completely escape the emotional impacts of the past, but we can compassionately accept these emotions, building a healthy conceptual context around the felt experience.

With growth, we can become adept at identifying remnants from past hurts. We skillfully navigate the emotions to mitigate their interference with current important relationships—having an understanding partner helps with this difficult task.

Increasing skills of self-nurturance is essential to address, process, and resolve hurts. Mindful reflection is a constructive approach, inviting improvement. Seemingly random events begin to make greater sense.

Science and the Magnificence of Life

Some feel science demeans our existence. However, science only lessens the awe of life if we cannot see the magnificence of existence.

Steven Pinker, a public intellectual, wrote:

“Science is, in a sense, ‘reducing’ us to the physiological processes of a not-very-attractive three-pound organ. But what an organ! In its staggering complexity, its explosive combinatorial computation, and its limitless ability to imagine real and hypothetical worlds, the brain, truly, is wider than the sky” (Pinker, 2003).

For me, like Pinker, science leaves me in a reverent awe.

Michael Eigen, a highly regarded contemporary American psychoanalyst, wrote:

“As a human group we are in the midst of a great journey, exploring ways we make contact with reality, contact with subjectivity, ways we constitute reality and reality constitutes us. It is awesome to be a living being who feels, cries, laughs, sings, dies. Who hurts others and is hurt, who goes mad, becomes inspired, or is just happy to be alive to each day to the extent one can. Life never ceases being an unpredictable sea, raising up, dashing down, pressing us through ranges of emotions, more alive, threatened, empty, deadened, eager” (Eigen, 2011).

There is nothing plain, insignificant or boring about life. It is magnificent.

See Psychology of Awe for more on this topic

Associated Concepts

• Broaden-and-Build Theory: This theory suggests that positive emotions broaden an individual’s thought-action repertoire, leading to increased creativity, resilience, and overall well-being.
• Flow State: This refers to a mental state of complete absorption in an activity, where one is fully immersed and focused. Psychology characterizes this state as a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.
• PERMA Model: Positive Emotions are one of the five elements of the PERMA model, which stands for Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Uplifting emotions are seen as a prime indicator of flourishing and can be cultivated to improve well-being.
• Self-Actualization: Abraham Maslow’s concept of self-actualization, which refers to the realization of one’s potential and the pursuit of personal growth, aligns with the PERMA model’s emphasis on flourishing and well-being.
• Savoring Life: This is the mindful appreciation and enjoyment of everyday moments, fostering gratitude and well-being. It involves various techniques, such as basking, thanksgiving, marveling, and luxuriating, leading to improved mental and physical health.
• Life is Beautiful: This perspective emphasizes the inherent beauty, wonder, and value found within human existence, even amidst challenges and suffering. It’s not about denying the existence of hardship, but rather choosing to focus on the positive aspects of life and finding meaning and joy in the everyday.
• Wonderment: This is a psychological state characterized by a feeling of awe, curiosity, and amazement towards something perceived as extraordinary or beyond ordinary understanding. It often involves a sense of fascination, marvel, and a willingness to engage in exploratory behaviors to understand or experience the object of wonder.
• Rich, Meaningful Life: This refers to living in a way that aligns with one’s values, beliefs, and passions. It often involves engaging in activities and relationships that bring a sense of fulfillment, purpose, and satisfaction.

A Few Words by Psychology Fanatic

​Our lives increase in wisdom with larger perspectives; new experience no longer feels chaotic. With acceptance of the unknown, our futures become more connected to our present. Future hopes are not ill-defined dreams but an interwoven part of a defined plan. We recognize our role in the complex and unfolding universe. With our growing knowledge, we exercise caution.

​We can’t avoid all the unknowns but manage to avoid obvious dangers that inflict new wounds in need of care. The small steps of improvement lead towards healthier living, and healthier living invites more growth. The positive cycle of change is born, and we delight in this magnificent life.

Last Update: November 19, 2025

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References:

Eigen, Michael (2011). Contact with the Depths. Routledge; 1st edition. ISBN-10: 1855758474
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Murphy, T. Franklin (2022). Breaking the Cycle of Rumination: A Guide to Overcoming Negative Thoughts. Psychology Fanatic. Published 2-22-2022; Accessed: 2-17-2025. Website: https://psychologyfanatic.com/rumination/
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Murphy, T. Franklin (2018). Unleashing the Potential of Neuroplasticity in the Brain. Psychology Fanatic. Published: 4-11-2018; Accessed: 3-4-2024. Website: https://psychologyfanatic.com/neuroplasticity/
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Pinker, Steven (2003). The Blank Slate: The Modern Denial of Human Nature. Penguin Books; Reprint edition. ISBN-10: 0142003344; APA Record: 2002-18647-000
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