Idealization of Self-Image: A Defense Mechanism

Idealization of Self-Image: A Defense Mechanism

When faced with challenges to our self-esteem, the human mind has a remarkable way of protecting itself. One such defense mechanism is the idealization of self-image. This psychological phenomenon involves the tendency to overestimate our positive qualities and achievements while underestimating our flaws and limitations. By creating an idealized version of ourselves, we shield our self-esteem from potential threats and enhance our psychological well-being.

Understanding Idealization of Self-Image

Idealization of self-image serves as a protective shield against feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. It allows individuals to maintain a positive view of themselves, even in the face of adversity. This defense mechanism often manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, career pursuits, and personal aspirations. For instance, an individual may idealize their abilities to cope with stress, overlooking moments of vulnerability and weakness. Similarly, in the realm of relationships, one may idealize their partner, attributing only positive characteristics while disregarding any negative traits.

Karen Horney refers to self-idealization as a neurotic solution. She explains that “it promises not only a riddance from his painful and unbearable feelings (feeling lost, anxious, inferior, and divided), but in addition an ultimately mysterious fulfillment of himself and his life. No wonder, then, that when he believes he has found such a solution he clings to it for dear life” (Horney, 1950).

Defense mechanisms do not operate in isolation of the other mechanisms. We use a blend of many mechanisms to achieve our psychological goal. Some mechanisms such as idealization of self-image, may be used in service of other defenses, such as denial. In order to achieve, an ideal-self-image, we may project unwanted aspects of ourselves on others.

Self-idealization is a form of “psychotic denial.” George Vaillant explains the “psychotic denial literally obliterates external reality” (Vaillant, 1998. p. 43). In extremes, idealization of self-image obliterates authenticity of self.

Elements of Self Idealization

The defense mechanism of idealization, particularly when it involves one’s self-image, includes several key elements:

1. Exaggeration of Positive Qualities: Individuals may attribute exaggerated positive qualities to themselves, often ignoring or minimizing flaws.
2. Protection from Low Self-Esteem: Idealization serves as a defense against feelings of inadequacy or low self-worth by enhancing one’s perception of self.
3. Distortion of Reality: There is a distortion of reality where the individual may deny or overlook negative aspects of themselves and focus solely on the positive.
4. Temporary Relief: Idealization can provide temporary relief from emotional conflicts or stressors by creating a more powerful, revered, or important self-image.
5. Borrowing Strength: By associating with strong, positive images of oneself, individuals can ‘borrow’ strength and feel more capable or significant.
6. Impact on Relationships: This mechanism can affect relationships, as the individual might expect others to conform to their idealized self-image, leading to potential conflicts or disappointments.

Understanding these elements can be particularly useful for someone with your interests in psychology and visual representation, as it provides insight into how individuals protect their self-esteem and navigate their social world.

Superiority and Self-Idealization

Self-idealization creates an artificial sense of superiority. The need for superiority is a fundamental psychological drive to overcome feelings of inferiority according to Alfred Adler. The neurotic uses self-idealization as a “guiding fiction” in directing their lives (Adler, 1920).

Horney wrote, “self-idealization always entails a general self-glorification, and thereby gives the individual the much-needed feeling of significance and of superiority over others” (Horney, 1950. Kindle location: 213). Joseph Burgo associate self-idealization with narcissism. He explains that the narcissist “begins with denial and thrives on idealization. The narcissist idealizes himself and wants other people to idealize him, too.” Burgo continues, “narcissists depend upon the admiration and envy of others to support their own self-idealization” (Burgo, 2012).

How Does The Self-Idealization Defense Develop?

Researchers proposed several theories that contribute to the development of self-idealization. These include:

The development of the self-idealization defense mechanism is a complex process that often begins in early childhood and is influenced by various factors throughout a person’s life. Here are some key points on how it develops.

Childhood:

• Early Experiences: It can originate from early experiences where a child’s emotional needs are not met, leading to feelings of insecurity or inadequacy.
• Coping Strategy: As a coping strategy, the child may begin to construct an idealized self-image that compensates for these feelings of worthlessness or unfulfilled needs.
• Parental Influence: The attitudes and behaviors of parents or primary caregivers can significantly impact the formation of this defense. If caregivers are overly critical or have high expectations, the child may resort to idealization as a way to feel valued.

Conditioning:

• Adaptive Function: Initially, self-idealization can serve an adaptive function by providing a sense of safety and self-worth. However, over time, it can become maladaptive if it leads to significant distortions of reality.
• Reinforcement: The defense is reinforced when it successfully protects the individual from negative emotions or enhances their self-esteem, even if it’s based on an unrealistic self-view.

Social Influences:

• Social Feedback: The feedback received from others, especially during formative years, can contribute to the development of an idealized self-image as a means to gain approval and acceptance.
• Cultural and Societal Factors: Cultural norms and societal expectations can also play a role, as individuals may feel pressured to present an idealized version of themselves to fit in or succeed.

Self-Perpetuating:

• Self-Esteem: Individuals with low self-esteem are more likely to develop an idealized self-image to protect themselves from perceived threats to their self-worth.
• Maintenance: It is maintained through a cycle of reinforcement where the idealized self-image is continuously upheld to avoid confronting the painful feelings associated with one’s actual self-perception (Di Giuseppe & Perry 2021).

Shame and Self-Idealization

Andrew P. Morrison and Robert D. Stolorow wrote, “from early, recurring experiences of malattunement, the child acquires the unconscious conviction that unmet developmental yearnings and reactive feeling states are manifestations of a loathsome defect or of an inherent inner badness. A defensive self-ideal is established, representing a self-image purified of the offending affect states that were perceived to be intolerable to the early surround” (Morrison & Stolorow, 1997. Kindle location: 1,683). Basically they theorize that self-idealization is a defensive response to childhood shame.

Adaptiveness of Self-Idealization

The Hierarchy of Defense Mechanisms

A common instrument for assessing defense mechanism, and the gold standard of defense mechanism inventories, is the Defense Mechanism Rating Scale (DMRS) . The DMRS scores patients on 30 different defenses, placing the defenses into three categories: mature defenses, neurotic defenses, and immature defenses. Within the three categories, seven levels of defenses are identified with level seven being the most mature defenses (Di Giuseppe & Perry 2021).

Researchers consider Self-Idealization a level four defense (minor image distorting defense) within the larger category of immature defenses.

Adaptiveness

Self-idealization has positive and negative aspects. Everyone distorts the image of themself. In psychology we refer to his as the fundamental attribution error. We differ in how we attribute events between ourselves and others. However, the measure of adaptiveness is the impact of the defense on our futures.

Some of the positive aspects of self-idealization is that it boosts confidence. Consequently, this may enhance motivation. However, if the idealized image is too far from reality it may impact motivation, fearing failure will hurt this over-estimated self.

Idealized self images are subject to conflicts with reality. When the image is significantly embedded in the psyche, the unconscious mind successfully manipulates perceptions to bow to these idealized images of self. However, if the individual who has consistently maintained an idealized image to avoid difficult emotions associated with reality, happens to stumble on a moment of clarity, they may collapse into depression. It is like losing yourself to a much lesser being. Lawrence Heller wrote, “when the idealized self-image fails, they may become self-destructive, prone to alcohol, drug abuse, and other high-risk behaviors” (Heller and LaPierre, 2012). Perhaps, this is why Horney proposed that they hold on to this image for dear life

Impact on Behavior and Well-Being

While idealization of self-image offers short-term relief from negative feelings, its long-term effects can be complex. On one hand, it may provide the confidence and motivation necessary to pursue ambitious goals and overcome obstacles. On the other hand, excessive reliance on this defense mechanism can lead to a distorted perception of reality and hinder personal growth. When individuals consistently overlook their flaws and mistakes, they may struggle to learn from their experiences and adapt to changing circumstances.

In a psychological context, idealization of self-image can contribute to the formation of a distorted self-concept, impacting interpersonal relationships and overall well-being.

Self-idealization, as a defense mechanism, can have a significant impact on an individual’s behavior in various ways.

Decision Making:

• Behavioral Consistency with Ideal Self: Individuals may engage in behaviors that are consistent with their idealized self-image. these behaviors are particularly troublesome when they are not reflective of their true self or capabilities.
• Risk-Taking Behaviors: An idealized self-image might lead to increased risk-taking behaviors, as individuals may feel invulnerable or believe they are capable of handling any consequences.
• Distorted Perception of Personal Abilities: Self-idealization can lead to an inflated sense of one’s abilities, which might result in taking on tasks or responsibilities that are beyond one’s actual capacity.
• Decision Making: Self-idealization can affect decision-making processes, as individuals may make choices based on what they believe their ‘ideal’ self would do, rather than considering the practicality or reality of the situation.

Relationships:

• Interpersonal Relationships: In relationships, self-idealization can cause a person to project their idealized traits onto others, expecting them to conform to this unrealistic standard. Accordingly, these projection can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings.
• Social Interaction: Self-idealization can influence how individuals interact with others, often leading to a persona that is charming and confident, but potentially superficial and lacking in authenticity.

Cognitions and Emotions:

• Emotional Regulation: People who idealize themselves may experience intense self-criticism and feelings of emptiness when they fail to meet their own idealized standards. Conversely, they may feel a temporary boost in self-esteem when they perceive themselves as living up to these ideals.
• Self-Esteem Fluctuations: The gap between the idealized self and the real self can cause fluctuations in self-esteem. These fluctuations can seriously impact behaviors. Fluctuations are particularly salient when they face with challenges or failures.
• Cognitive Dissonance: When reality does not align with the idealized self-image, individuals may experience cognitive dissonance. Accordingly, the dissonance may lead to rationalization or denial of facts.
• Mental Health: Over time, the strain of maintaining an idealized self-image can contribute to mental health issues. These include disorders such as anxiety and depression. The individual is especially impacted when they fail to meet their unrealistic expectations.

Adler wrote that “if everyone possesses within himself an ideal of superiority…then we ought to encounter phenomena whose purpose is the oppression, the minimizing and undervaluation of others” (Adler, 1920). Basically, the individual boosts their own sense of self by devaluing others.

Recognizing and Balancing the Idealized Self-Image

Recognizing when idealization of self-image comes into play is crucial for personal development. By acknowledging our tendencies to idealize our self-image, we can cultivate a more balanced and realistic view of ourselves. Consequently, this self-awareness allows for a deeper understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, fostering a healthier and more authentic sense of self.

Overcoming Idealization of Self-Image

Overcoming the pitfalls of idealization involves embracing vulnerability and imperfection. It requires a willingness to acknowledge and learn from our mistakes. Accordingly, this knowledge fosters a growth mindset that values personal development over preserving the idealized self-image. Seeking feedback from trusted individuals and exploring our genuine emotions can further aid in dismantling the barriers created by idealization.

A Few Words by Psychology Fanatic

In conclusion, the idealization of self-image serves as a protective mechanism to safeguard our self-esteem. However, while it offers temporary respite from negative emotions, it has a long term cost. By embracing a more balanced self-image, we encourage greater resilience and personal development. Accordingly, by recognizing and addressing our tendency to idealize our self-image, we take a crucial step towards authenticity and genuine self-esteem.

Last Update: March 20, 2024

References:

Adler, Alfred (1920/2011). The Practice and Theory of Individual Psychology. ‎Martino Fine Books.

Burgo, Joseph (2012). Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives. New Rise Press.

Di Giuseppe, M., & Perry, J. (2021). The Hierarchy of Defense Mechanisms: Assessing Defensive Functioning With the Defense Mechanisms Rating Scales Q-Sort. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. DOI: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.718440

Heller, Lawrence; LaPierre, Aline (2012). Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship. North Atlantic Books; 1st edition.

Horney, Karen (1950/1991). Neurosis and Human Growth: The struggle toward self-realization. W. W. Norton & Company; 2nd edition.

Morrison, Andrew P.; Stolorow, Robert D. (1997). Shame, Narcissism, and Intersubjectivity. Editors Lansky, M. R. and Morrison, A. P. In The Widening Scope of Shame. ​Routledge; 1st edition.

Vaillant, George E. (1998). The Wisdom of the Ego. Harvard University Press; Reprint edition.

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